“I strive to be a mentor for my younger relatives and teach them to be kind to everyone and to embrace diversity. It would be boring if everyone were the same!”
—Nicole, Columbus, USA
“elphie put it best when she said "everyone deserves a chance to fly." no matter what,, we can give everyone in our schools the chance to be all that they want and dream to be!”
—elana clavner, university heights, ohio
“Don't worry about what other people say. Be a leader not a follower. Don't become a bully if you are bullied. Do not bully in order to fit in. Be you and only you, do not others influence you or change you. Choose something that will relax you and release anger. You are unique and beautiful!! Follow your dreams and let no one stop you! You can succeed!”
—5th grade class 114, philadelphia, PA
“I wanted to say that I was relentlessly bullied as a child. I was bullied to the point of having considered suicide several times. I can say I never did it and that I made it out alive. Being an adult is much easier to me than being a child. I want that to be part of the message. It does end. Eventually you outgrow that level of negativity.
Looking back I can see that I was awkward, poor, uncool, maybe even a little creepy. I admit that. I definitely didn't know that then. I was just lost in my little world.
I have so much to say, but I know this will quickly become a novel. Just know it does end and that there are a LOT of people that care and love. People that support and identify with you. People that will help you up and wipe off the blood, instead of laughing, pointing, taking pictures and posting them on the internet.
Please know the problem isn't you . It's the bullies. I wish you strength, I offer you my empathy. If I met you right now, I would give you a hug.
Thank you for your time.
—HG, Ferndale Michigan
“im in 5th grade and i had never been bulied and i dont want it to happen because i only take stands and lend hands to who ever needs it”
—esdras lopez, los angeles california
“Being an upstander is not easy. I have been bullied my entire life--mostly by the people closest to me(friends and family). Rather then stand up for myself, I believed them. I hated myself. Knowing how that feels, I now do my absolute best to make sure that other people do not feel that way. If I see ANYONE being bullied, whether 5 years old or 105 years old, I will support them. It is my dream to pursue a career in social work so that I can help both the bully and the bullied. I hope many more join the cause to end bullying. LOVE ALL!”
—Alyssa, Orange County, NY, College student-social work
“I always stand up for the victim and underdog. I've been personally bullied and a lot of my friends have been too. It's not okay, so I always take a stand against bullying. Everyone should see the movie BULLY.”
—Zara, New York, USA
“oh,i just want to bullies.once i got bullyed.but i teach them a lesson not like a bad kind the kind like if sommeone bullyed them.once my friend got beatup be for and i stoped it!:) i felt happy when i stoped it.bulling is gust soo mean.its a good ting there is this website!!!i want to stop bullying!!i would never want to bully!”
—tammy xiong, millwalkee and U.S.A
“I am twenty three years old and to this day the bullying that I went through still haunts me. We need to put a stop to bullying. Schools need to realize verbal abuse is still abuse. Teachers need to stop turning the other cheek and take action and control of their classroom.”
—Michelle, Franklin MA
“Bullying is something that never goes away...even after the actions have stopped, the hurtful words haunt you long after. As a victim of bullying, I understand the emotional wounds that never completely heal. I am an upstander because I stood up to my bullies and put a stop to my torment. My school did nothing..I fought alone. I want all schools to join this movement to stop bullying for good! Wicked is such a powerful musical because it shows what can happen when one is unfairly judged misunderstood. I support Wicked and Bullybust to the fullest!”
—Dani Granati, Roswell, GA, USA
“"It Gets Better" now as a parent of a young elementary child hearing these stories of bullying & suicides these days breaks my heart. I too agree with "Treat others the way you would want to be treated" and especially with respect & without any prejudice. Life will always be hard high school & college really should be the best time of your life and quite frankly for many due to not being popular its not. It can be terrible....most days you may not even want to go. I say never let anyone or anything change who you are or your appearance just always love & respect yourself.....believe in yourself, goals, dreams, etc. because "No One Can Make Your Dreams Come True But You" and no one can stop you either. I will stand up for any student that I feel is being bullied or disrespected in any way as a volunteer parent in school!”
—Jodie S., Newport, KY USA
“I am confident that I can defend myself and others against bullies; and that I can talk to those I trust if me or if anyone else is having problems.”
—Becky, New Jersey
“I am a student in 6th grade, and I am an upstander because I make sure to include everyone is anything that they want to do.”
—Becca, New York, New York
“I have been bullied almost all of my life. When I would ask them why, they would say, "Because you're fat," or, "Because you have a disease and we don't want to catch it." But I knew why they bullied me. I have this birthmark on the left side of my face. Everyone would stare at me when I walked down the halls. That made me feel even worse. I wished that I could escape from the stares and the hurtful words, since first grade. I never had a friend in school until my friend, my only friend, Zakiyyah started to sit with me at lunch. I think the bullies think that their words do not matter, but they do. Those simple words hurt and make you feel worthless. ”
—Amanda Rines, Bartlett,TN USA
—Afrida, New York
The information provided on this site is adapted from NSCC's Breaking the Bully-Victim-Bystander Cycle Toolkit. NSCC is grateful to the following organizations for their invaluable support in developing these resources: the Durst Foundation, the Florence V. Burden Foundation, Ohio Department of Education and the National School Climate Center's Trustees
NSCC is grateful to the following organizations for their generous support of BullyBust